Intentional Rejection

It hurts to say, It hearts to hear.
Enslaving in one breath, 
Liberating in the next.


How can two simple letters carry such authority?
Perhaps it's the rejection...
Perhaps it's the people-pleasing-pride...
Perhaps it's simply human nature...

But one thing I've come to realize:
As much as I don't like saying "No", I say it every day.
I say "No" every time I say "Yes".
The two walk hand-in-hand.
One cannot exist without the other.
Every time I say "Yes" to one opportunity, I say "No" to another.
It's not a question of if, but when and what.

Andy Stanley sums it up perfectly when he writes: Choose to Cheat
In other words, something is going to be on the receiving end of our rejection.
Something or Someone is going to receive the devastating blow of "No".
Our job is determining who or what that will be.

The paradox of it all is that "No" doesn't simultaneously equal "Bad".
When opportunity contradicts our moral standards, rejection should be at the forefront.
But what about when it doesn't contradict?
What if it actually compliments? 

It's actually a good thing?

I believe John Maxwell put it best when he wrote:
"Learn to say 'no' to the good so you can say 'yes' the best"
Beautifully put John.
Just one problem: How do I Learn to say "No"?

To this point I've stumbled across only one solution:
In order to improve, one must practice.
I have to practice saying "No".
Uncomfortable? Of Course.
Contradictory to my Instincts? You Bet.
But I can either allow temporal discomfort to guide me down the path of 
inevitable stress and regret resulting from Yes Man Syndrome, or I can subscribe to the philosophical truth etched into every gym wall across America: Pain is simply weakness leaving the body. 
I can say "Yes" to everything good and ultimately "No" to anything great, or I can choose to practice the art of Intentional Rejection. And that's just what it is...and art.
A "tension to be managed, not a problem to be solved" as Stanley puts it.

Is there a formula to managing this tension? 

This Intentional Rejection?
If only there were...
Perhaps there is...
But until then...
I think I'll choose to say "Yes" to saying "No"


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